Being authentic at work is a challenge because of all of the established norms, but being authentic in personal relationships can be equally challenging. If you find yourself veering away from your true north, it’s helpful to consider the following questions:
Is anyone really authentic in my workplace? My friend group? Are these individuals I admire?
Why aren’t people themselves?
Do I feel the need to act a certain way because it is culturally and socially acceptable?
By being the person others want me to be,will I be more successful?
Will my family and friends like who I really am?
People tend to “hide behind the suit”, conforming to external expectations of what is popular and accepted. By staying true north, you conform only to what feels right to you. You step out from behind the
shadows of preconceived notions of who you are in the world and instead seek to find this out for yourself. If this means laughing out loud among your serious-minded colleagues, wearing your hair long or putting on a flowered dress—go for it!
Fear diminishes since risk becomes more of who you are and less about the unknown. Your authentic self is a courageous self. Imagine feeling free to be playful and silly. To be sad, to show disappointment, to not pretend everything was good all the time. Imagine harnessing the energy you have used to be someone other than your authentic self and using it instead to live passionately, happily and truthfully. is is a life well worth the risk.
Those who are authentic have the resources, personal beliefs, and abilities to create their own future. Their resources include trusted and genuine connections among those with whom they share their true selves. ey
are content in their value and unique contributions to their companies and to the world. ey walk always in their sense of personal power. They set their compass point to true north, a place where their genuine selves always reside.